>A Lesson in Swagger


(<— thanks urbandictionary.com)

I find it amusing to browse my analytics from time to time and see what keywords people are typing into search engines that lead them to a pretty penny.

This morning once such keyword phrase was “swagger self help.” I almost choked on my Earl Gray and laughed out loud. I’m pretty sure I’ve never used the word swagger in this blog {ever} and I’ve only mentioned self-help a handful of times — mostly when referring to my penchant for the cheesy literature genre.

I pictured some poor, lonely chap googling “swagger self help” hoping to find tips on building confidence to ask out chicks or be a little more BA. Imagine his disappointment when he clicked to A.P.P. and found a ton of pictures of a toothy-grinned, married white girl going on and on about her clothes, her “hubs” and Goldendoodle puppy, and her love of all things dessert. I have about as much swagger as these two.

Then I decided that if Google is going to send these lost souls to me, next time I’m going to be prepared!

So if you’re in a rut or feeling a dip (or nosedive) in confidence, here are my tips on swagger, Keira-style:

Stay true to your style. Wear the things that make you feel good amazing. If you feel uncomfortable in what you have on, you look uncomfortable.When you develop your own personal style and stop being a slave to the latest trends and fashion “rules,” the swagger comes naturally.

To earn respect, you have to give it. The people I admire most are the ones that practice the golden rule: treat others the way you like to be treated. Cut out the gossip and negativity, smile more and be generous with compliments (but only when they’re genuine), and be honest and dependable. Respect will follow — both from others, and for yourself.
Stop the comparison game. This one is tough, but if you’re the type of person that’s always trying to keep up with the Joneses {or Kardashians?} you’re never going to recognize or appreciate all the good things you already have. If you need a reminder of all the blessings in your life, write them down. Make a list of all the things you’re thankful for, and hang it in a conspicuous place where you’ll see it often. 
Re-prioritize. And then six months from now, re-prioritize again. In the day-to-day minutia and stress of our modern lives, sometimes it’s hard to see the proverbial forest for the trees. Be sure you’re making time for the things that are most important to you and make you happy.
Trim the fat. This goes hand-in-hand with re-prioritizing, and I’m not referring to weight loss. Get rid of the things in your life that are bringing you down and keeping you from realizing your goals — make a plan to eliminate the debt that’s stressing you out, spend less time with negative or “toxic” friends, slow down the party train that’s leaving you haggard and broke, etc.
Get a hobby. Sometimes when you’re in a funk, all it takes to pull out of it is a new creative outlet or distraction to channel all of that bad energy into something positive. Get crafty, start a blog, take up photography, or join a book club. 

Make new goals. Nothing boosts your self esteem like achieving a personal challenge. I’ve been mulling over the idea of training for a 5k. I’ve never been a runner, and I really kind of hate exercise {hangs head in shame} so following through with a goal like this and seeing it to completion would be a huge victory for me. Stay tuned on that one…

What would you add to this list? 

For more swagger inspiration of the confidence building and self-love variety, visit Already Pretty and Gala Darling!

About Keira Lennox

I'm a small town girl from the sunshine state with an affinity for bookstores, beauty counters and unfussy style. I spend my days running my flower shop, and my nights blogging about what I love and what I wear. (Or watching Netflix and drinking wine.)

15 thoughts on “>A Lesson in Swagger

  1. >Thanks for the tips, I feel better about my swagger already! Clearly you've already got it. Also, that video is HILARIOUS. I love the Sienna family.

  2. >First of all, those are hilarious search terms. Secondly, based on the urbandictionary.com definitions, I'd say you definitely have swagger!

  3. >Great list!! Thanks for the perspective check today!! It's good to be reminded of these things. I am going to report this on my FB

  4. >What a great post. I totally relate to your 5K goal. I also hate running but it is something I have wanted to do for a long time. Run a 5K was on my list of New Years resolutions, but I always start training and something comes up and I get sidetracked. Maybe we can start a little 5K support group and keep each other motivated :)

  5. >lurve it! my favorite search engine phrase that led someone to my blog is "obsessed with cardigans", of course that is in fact genuinely true.

  6. >love this entry! And great tips for swagger-building. I would add "Look people in the eye". It took me a while to get comfortable with looking others, even people I pass on the sidewalk in the eye, but it's amazing just how good it feels to make those little connections with people. Plus, if you make eye contact, very likely the next step is smiling, and smiling is always swagger-inducing! :o)

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