this one goes out to the birthday boy

{celebrating our birthdays back in 2005, the year we met.}

Our birthdays are two weeks apart. And some years, but you’d never know it. He gets carded more often and just keeps getting cuter with each passing year {unfair}.

This morning I was out and about running errands for the shop, and as I was checking out at the home improvement store I made small talk with the cashier. We were chatting about the Christmas specials, and she asked if I’d finished my decorating at home. I snorted something along the lines of “pssht.. yeah right,” as a reply, and returned the question. She said she hadn’t had much motivation this year, because she’d just lost her husband and wasn’t feeling much in the holiday spirit. Putting up the decorations was always something special they’d done together, she explained. He’d play their favorite Christmas music on the radio and they’d have the greatest time, just the two of them.

Then she told me that she’d had good days and bad days since losing him, but today was especially hard because she’d had him on her mind and was really missing him. Most likely because of all the people (like me) bustling through her line — carts loaded down with poinsettias and strands of lights and bulk-size boxes of ornaments — checking their holiday chores off a to-do list without really stopping to appreciate the season and the people they’d haul all those Christmas wares home to. I imagine she’d like to shake every single one of us and say, “Wake up! This Christmas may be your last! Treasure it!

My heart broke for her. I stuttered out an inadequate something-or-other about being so sorry for her loss, and encouraging her to do at least a little decorating because her husband would want her to continue their tradition [ramble, ramble…]. I should’ve hugged her. Or said something comforting and profound. But I couldn’t, because I just kept thinking of my own husband and how 8 birthdays have already gone by and the time is just going too fast. I walked to my car, suddenly hyper-aware of how blessed I am to celebrate another birthday with the man who holds my whole heart and praying that we have lots and lots more traditions left to share.

Starting tonight, with our favorite way to celebrate birthdays: a quiet dinner at home, just the two of us — three if you count the Doodle baby, which we do — with lots of wine and a movie and puppy cuddles. He doesn’t like cake {weird, I know} but that usually doesn’t stop me from picking up a cupcake or two for the festivities. Because seriously, there just aren’t enough opportunities for cupcakes.

Happy birthday to the guy who makes my heart go pitter-patter. I love you so much it hurts.

May all your birthday wishes come true!


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  1. 12.3.12
    steffy said:

    That breaks my heart. My mom passed away at the beginning of November 2 years ago, and Christmas was kind of “our” holiday. It gets easier with time, but any loss is hard to cope with. So kind of you to talk to her about it!

    Happiest birthdays to you both.

  2. 12.1.12
    eldelaymi said:

    Inspiring story

  3. 12.1.12
    Jupe said:

    Aw…very sweet post, I just love when bloggers acknowledge the special folks in their lives! Sounds like you’ve got a hubs like mine…he keeps getting handsomer (hehe) with age, wish I had that trick! You guys look darling together ,glad you had a good time :)

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  4. 11.30.12
    Kayley said:

    This is such a sweet post. Thank you for sharing that story and also for sharing the throwback photo of the two of you. You were just as beautiful back then!

  5. 11.30.12
    Sharon said:

    Maybe you could drop a Christmas card and cookies by her work place or a small little arrangement. We always take things for granted no matter how big or small they are. I think the holiday season is about us making others feel loved. xxxx

    • 11.30.12

      I love this idea, Sharon! I thought about that when I was leaving.

      • 12.1.12
        Sharon said:

        We never know what kind of difference one small gesture may make. It will deliver a warm feeling for you both. Oh to lift someone’s spirit during this busy time of year! God bless and Merry Christmas!

  6. 11.30.12
    nwbnstr said:

    My guy’s birthday is today too!! Have a great night relaxing and enjoying spending time with your little family :) Time really does go by too quickly and it’s always a good reminder to slow down and enjoy the special moments.

  7. 11.30.12

    A beautiful post-I think we should all endevour to make the most of our loved ones this season.

    Thanks so sharing,

    Karina, from London.

  8. 11.30.12

    Thank you for sharing. I think many people forget to stop and appreciate their loved ones enough, myself included! And Happy Birthday!